All of us come into this world playing and continue to do so
for the rest of our lives. Babies play with their toes and their daddies’ ears;
toddlers play with toys and their grandmas’ whatnots; children play with their
friends—hopscotch, dodge ball, red rover (I know these are old fashioned);
teenagers play hooky and chicken and steal-the-boyfriend; adults play all sorts
of “games” to capture their sweethearts and to advance themselves in the work
world. The two types of play that
are surfacing in my mind this morning, though, are two that I haven’t mentioned
and are coming to me from my childhood. Both games were important in developing
me into the person I am today at the tender age of 73.
In my neighborhood in New Orleans, a WWII housing project,
we children didn’t have many toys. I always had dolls, and during the war, I
had plastic airplanes that we played with, bombing the Japs (I know that’s
politically incorrect, but that’s what we called them), but I don’t remember
many other toys. Oh, yes, I heard on the radio once about a cardboard farm set
that I could order, probably for a dollar or so, and I did just that. But I
forgot to include the dollar. I received it anyway. That was surely “back in
the day,” wasn’t it? After school, we skated and rode bikes on the sidewalks in
our neighborhood, and on Saturdays we played in new-mown grass and on a jungle
gym in the big, shared backyard. We also played all of the previously mentioned
games—hopscotch, dodge ball, red rover—but the ones that I remember best are
house and school.
I loved it when Donny Lockwood played house with us girls
because he could be the daddy. If he didn’t play, I had to be the daddy because
I was the tallest. How I hated that! Just because I was tall didn’t mean I had
to be a boy. Sometimes we played with dolls for the babies, but sometimes we
just let the youngest or smallest child be the baby. She would coo and gurgle
just like a real baby, and we loved that. We prepared meals the way our mothers
did, using leaves and flowers and dirt for the ingredients. The “garbage”
flowers and leaves were the best because they were the biggest. I have no idea
as to what these flowers and leaves really were; they were just the ones
planted around our garbage area, a fence-in square where the garbage cans were
located. The plants did their best to hide what was really there. We mimicked
our parents when we talked to each other, with the daddy pitching his or her
voice very low and authoritatively. Whoever was the mother had a high voice and
always told the daddy what had gone on around the house while he was off at
work. In the same manner, the daddy would report on what he had done at the
office. He probably had the same job that his daddy had. Occasionally, while we
were playing house, we’d stop for a while to use our spoons or little shovels
to try to dig to China because we were convinced that if we dug down deep
enough, we’d see Chinamen down in the hole. Inevitably during our playtime,
we’d use the expression “Let’s plike,” being interpreted “Let’s play like.” We
little Southerners didn’t do too well with some words. We loved playing house
and could stay at it for hours. In
the evenings in the summer, we’d play slinging statues and catch lightning bugs
until our parents called us in for bath and bedtime.
We played house both inside and outside our homes, but the
next game was played inside because we’d never heard of a school being outside.
That’s right . . . we played school. And guess who was almost always the
teacher! You got it . . . Sandy. This was probably the only game in which I was
really pushy. I was the tallest, so I could be the teacher. This was one time
that I didn’t resent being picked for something because of my height. Children
back then didn’t have many books of their own. I really don’t know why. Maybe
parents expected their kids to get books from the library. I did that, but I
also had some books of my own. I wish I still had those books because inside
each one of them I’d see a subject written: arithmetic (we never called it math
or mathematics), reading, trigonometry (I read that word in a book one time and
thought it sounded interesting . . . had a real ring to it), composition,
history, and probably some others. I was a hard taskmaster of a teacher and made
the students stay focused on what we were doing. My little wooden easel
chalkboard with the alphabet at the top made my schoolroom look real . . . at
least to me.
These two games have stayed in my mind through all of these
years because both helped me to think about the future at a very young age. I
knew that certain things were done in a family and certain things weren’t from
playing house. The daddy was the leader of the household; the mother prepared
dinner and took care of the children. Sounds old fashioned, doesn’t it? It is,
but for me, it still applies today. Early on I found myself at the front of the
classroom, giving instructions to children, teaching them what I knew best. I
must admit that even back then, we spent more time on spelling and reading and
writing than we did on arithmetic. Just a little foreshadowing, I guess.
We had a great time in our project. Games were important in
our lives, and we played them to the hilt!
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