Thursday, February 19, 2015

Day 6 -- February 7, 2015



The water at Cozumel is as beautiful as any that we’ve ever seen. I hope the beauty will be evident in my photos. As we walked through the duty-free shopping mall that led to the city, we saw vendors selling every kind of alcohol that anyone might want (I suppose), perfumes, vanilla, diamonds, emeralds, just about anything that a visitor to Cozumel could desire. And then we laid eyes on the real vendors . . . those with shops. We had already been indoctrinated on the ones that are the most reliable, the ones that will send replacements free if anything is wrong after the buyer gets home. What the “pushers” didn’t tell us is what kind of kick-back they get when cruisers purchase. I’m sure there’s some kind of deal between the cruise line and the business people. But maybe not. I’m afraid no one got anything much from our purchases.

We walked through Diamonds International, just looking and listening to the people who worked there. We don’t have either the money or the desire to purchase expensive jewelry, but we do like to look. The aggressiveness of the clerks turns us off, so we don’t spend much time in jewelry stores. Claudia and Ivan are more patient and really look at beautiful jewelry, but on this trip, they didn’t buy any.

We all wanted to see genuine Alexandrite, so we went in a store that has probably the largest collection anywhere. It’s so expensive that the clerks weren’t even aggressive to us. Guess they took one look and knew we were just lookers!

After visiting as many of the stores as we wanted to, we left the shopping area and went toward the town. I bought a big bag to carry everything in. I love it and will use it at home, too. Then we decided to go to the beach to take pictures. We saw a sign saying that it was 1 km to the beach, but that was too far for my gimpy knee and back to walk, so we found a taxi to take us. It cost us $14 for the four of us, not bad since it was actually 10 km to the sand and water. We were surely happy that the driver didn’t take off immediately because when we discovered that it was going to cost us $15 EACH to walk on the sand and take photos, we decided to head back to town right then. We were disappointed but not distraught.

Our decision for lunch was to go back to the ship, where our lunch was already paid for. We had hamburgers at Guy’s Burger Joint (the Guy of The Food Channel fame). Absolutely delicious! Frank and I had The Ringer . . . a cheeseburger with a fried onion ring filled with barbecue sauce on it . . . and a handful of fries.

Back to our room to read and snooze till dinnertime. Claudia and Ivan went back to Cozumel to the lounge chairs right at the water to catch their zzzz’s!

Dinner was in Paris Dining again with the same wait staff that we had had the night before. The same loud DJ erupted about half way through dinner, but this time he played a tune that all the waiters knew, and they danced and danced! Wonderful entertainment!

Claudia and Ivan are really good at roaming around the ship after dinner and finding all sorts of interesting activities; however, we just get ready for bed and either read or watch TV and are perfectly happy. This cruise has been so relaxing and such fun. I can’t believe that we have only one more day at sea before docking at Galveston. But there’ll be more fun after that, and I’m excited about the next week, when we’ll be able to visit with friends and family!












Day 7 -- February 8, 2015



Our last day on board the Carnival Triumph, along with 2,996 other cruisers, was relaxing if not exciting. Breakfast in the Paris Dining Room was actually brunch. We laugh at ourselves a lot, and we got a good chuckle when we seated ourselves at our assigned table, #470, thinking how smart we were to be able to take care of ourselves. The hostess followed us and politely informed us that we didn’t have our usual table for this meal, that it was open (unassigned) seating and that another hostess would have to seat us. Hmmm . . . sounded a bit strange to us until we saw the sign that we had passed up in our eagerness to do the right thing – HOSTESS WILL SEAT YOU. A bit embarrassing, but, hey . . . these people will never see us again. We could have danced on the tables!

The choices looked delectable, as always. And starters for breakfast? Well, after all, it was brunch, and brunch is always fancier than breakfast. Right? So I had a bagel with all the trimmings, two eggs over easy, bacon, and, be still my heart . . . cheese grits. The eggs were a bit underdone, but everything else was just right, especially the grits.

On a ship like this, there are lots of activities to choose from during the day, but there was only one that really interested us, so after relaxing with our books and taking a climb up to the top deck to see how everything up there looked, we met up with Claudia and Ivan and headed for the Rome Lounge (actually a big theater), where we were all set to laugh at the couples chosen to take part in “Love and Marriage,” an on-ship version of the old TV show “The Newlywed Game.”

After a bit of hoopla, the cruise director told us that there would be three couples who would participate. The first one, he chose . . . Alexander and Kim, our bride and groom, the newest wed folks on the ship. The next couple would be the couple who had been married the longest. Claudia and Ivan or Frank and I could have won hands down, but we didn’t want to “show off.” The Robbinses will celebrate their 50th anniversary in September, and we just had our 53rd in December. We just sat quietly as others vied for the “old folks’” spot on the stage. The “children” who won had been married only 46 years. The middle spot had to be auditioned for: the man had to do his best rendition of Tarzan and Jane. The first couple won. The big black man beat his chest, yelled, “AhhhhEeeeeAhhhh!,” picked “jane” up nimbly (quite a feat for she was no feather), and made as if to run off with her. Others tried to imitate him, but most couldn’t lift their hefty “Janes” or didn’t have the right volume or were too young to know really what to do.

They were asked ten questions. The men had to answer the way they thought their wives would, and the wives were to give their own true answers. The questions ranged from where the couple met with some description to who was the husband’s last girlfriend with a couple of words of description to where they last made “whoopee” so that it was never the same since to what the wife would say the husband’s most irritating habit was. The answers were hilarious! The black couple had the funniest answers, and the husband was good at guessing what his wife would say. The answer that broke the whole audience up was the husband’s most irritating habit. Remember that she said this, not me. She replied, “When he gets excited, he farts!” Oh, my . . . that’s almost TMI, don’t you think?

Claudia showed us the photo that she had taken earlier from the stern, and the pattern of the water amazed us. We HAD to go to the back of the ship to take our own photos. Absolutely beautiful! You’ll see it in the pictures.

I finished my novel a little before dinner and managed to squeeze in a short nap, too. Sleep No More was a bit more sexually graphic from what I usually read, but the descriptions were necessary for the story to unfold and wind up the way it did. Oh, dear . . . now there’ll be a run on the book either in the book store or on Amazon because you’ll be so curious! HaHa!

Our last dinner in the Paris Dining Room was a bit nostalgic because we knew it would be our last time to have Agus and/or Sudipta as our waiters. They were such polite gentlemen, and we loved having them serve us. The waiters all memorize the names of their diners and call them appropriately, no matter where they see them on the ship. Agus never forgot that I wanted to be called Sandy! Sudipta is a very handsome young man, and Agus has the proverbial (as we say in the South) “face that only a mother could love,” but we loved them equally. You’ll see them in tonight’s photos. Agus practically led all the waiters in a rousing Macarena toward the end of our meal. He was just full of personality even if he wasn’t the handsome one.

I must admit that I didn’t check the schedule very carefully on Friday and Saturday, so we weren’t aware that there was a musical every evening. Claudia and Ivan had happened upon the one of Friday – “Around the World in 80 Days,” featuring music and dancing from various countries. I wish we had known about that one because it sounded like the best show. Tonight, though, we knew that the show would be “The Big Easy,” and since our next destination will be New Orleans, we wanted to see that one. I’m not a jazz fan, so I didn’t enjoy the music much until the singers and dancers got to “Jambalaya” and “When the Saints Go Marching In.” Those were WONDERFUL! The costumes and dancing throughout were magnificent, and I drank in everything.

Back to our rooms after the performance to be sure that everything would be ready for early Monday morning, when we’d dock, debark, and be on our way for the rest of our trip!















Day 9 -- February 10, 2015

Day 9 – February 10, 2015

Frank and I both thought of the same words as soon as we awakened this morning . . .  Happy Birthday, Jay! If our boy had lived, he’d have been 47 today. How I miss him! But on his birthday, we try to do nothing but celebrate. As usual, I posted something on my Facebook page. I know that most of you who are reading this saw my post; however, I’m posting it here just to have it saved in a place that I’ll remember.


Happy 47th, Jay!

That’s right. Had Jay lived, he’d be 47 today. Hard to believe. Thinking about Jay on his birthday (and my dad’s!) could be a sad day; however, as so many of you know, Jay was a funny guy, and we like to spend his birthday thinking about the Fun Jay.

As you know, I always post something here on Jay’s birthday and on the anniversary of the day he died. I start thinking about my post weeks ahead of time, sometimes writing new memories and sometimes posting something that I wrote a while back. The one today is from a couple of years ago.

I love to write, but my genre is nonfiction, to be specific, memoir. In a weak moment (or perhaps it was a brave moment) a couple of years ago, I succumbed to the encouragement of my favorite writing teacher, Melanie Faith, and signed up for her online poetry class through WOW—Women on Writing. A poet, I am not! In fact, back in my Woodham years, I used to write ditties for retiring teachers. All of us laughed at my attempts and called them “pomes,” not nearly good enough to be called “poems.”

My poetry attempts for Melanie were just a step above the pomes that I wrote for teachers. My submissions (I still can’t call them poems) leaned definitely toward memoir, my chosen genre, and one was about Jay. That piece is what I’m posting today. You’ll see my boy and my heart in it.

Progress

You’re absent.
Of course, you are . . .
Absent from me, the one left at home.
But you’re present There,
With the Lord,
enjoying much more singing and dancing and bass music
Than I am,
and that makes me as happy
as I used to be when you put my head in the fan.

Do I still grieve?

You know I do, but not all day every day.
Just when I walk down the hall at home,
Where the photos of you playing at Trinity’s
Or hugging some sweet young thing
Or putting the kitty in the fridge
Or making funny faces with Wendy
Hang.

You know I do, but not all day every day.
Just when I happen on a song by INXS
Or David Bowie
Or The Church
Or Billy Idol
Or Crowded House.

I do still grieve.
You know I do,
Just not all day every day.
Not all day every day, my son.

I hope this little ditty brings back good memories of Jay . . . of his talent and of his humor.

Happy Birthday, Jay!

We dressed and took everything out to the car. Then we headed straight for Café Du Monde, where we’d fill our tummies with coffee and beignets. Frank used to eat three orders (three beignets in each order), but his appetite has dwindled to only two orders. I have one order. When he told the waitress that we wanted three orders, she said, “Three beignets?” No . . . three ORDERS . . . that’s nine beignets. They were as delicious as they ever were!

I took a few pictures before we set off for Pensacola.

Frank decided that we’d go to Sam’s for gas before going to my cousin’s house. Yikes! It was supposed to be cheap. It was $2.24! Not cheap at all. But we didn’t find any gas in Pensacola as low as ours is in Santa Fe/Albuquerque. Who knows? It may be that much at home by now.

When he got back in the car, he said, “Do you want to take flowers to Jay on his birthday?” Of course, I did. So we went to Michael’s and bought posies for Jay and also for Mother and Daddy. As we were leaving, we saw our good friend Linda Thomas Lasher outside the store. What a treat! We stood in the cold visiting for several minutes. So what’s so important about this? We were going to have dinner with her and her hubby tonight! We still had plenty to talk about in the evening, though.

If the person who added some new flowers to the last ones that I put on Jay’s grave is reading this, thank you so much! Also . . . an apology to whoever put the black bracelet on the vase because it broke when we emptied water out and tried to put the vase back. We left it, but it’s broken. Made me so sad. I chose the flowers for my parents’ graves, and Frank chose Jay’s. They’ll look very pretty for a while, but the Florida sun doesn’t allow the bright colors to last very long.

When we arrived at JoAnn and Fred’s house, we found that their son, Freddie (I believe most people call him Fred now, but old habits are hard to break), was there. We were so happy to see him because it had been years and years since we had seen him. We always enjoy being with Jo and Fred and catching up on everything that’s going on in their lives.

We left at 5:00 to meet friends at the Marina Oyster Barn for dinner, the REAL beginning of our seafood splurge. Linda and her husband Bob, Barbara and David Lautner, and Fran Crumpton are five of our best friends in the whole world, and we thoroughly enjoyed being with them. There was not a minute of dead air at the table! Two more best friends, Annice and Gene Webb, couldn’t join us for the evening because of Gene’s health, and we truly missed them. Frank had fried shrimp, and I had fried oysters. Yummmmmm! We splurged and had key lime pie. So good!

We were back at Jo and Fred’s house by 7:45 and had more chatting to do before turning in. Good start to a very short visit to my hometown.












Day 10 -- February 11, 2015



Do you think it’s possible to dream that you’re not sleeping? I do. And that’s what happened to me last night. I thought I was awake most of the night, but I really don’t think that’s what happened. Anyway, just to be sure that I do sleep and that I feel as though I have, I have a plan for tonight.

Today was Doctor Day in Pensacola for us. We never have found an optometrist in New Mexico. We like to go to Doug Boyd, our doctor in Pensacola for years . . . actually, decades. He is working a couple of days a week at Sam’s Club in their Optometry/Optician Shop, and Wednesday is one of those days. Ten o’clock found us waiting for Doug. In addition to having our eyes examined, we get to catch up on family talk. Always fun.

Between appointments, I spent a little bit of money at a great sale at Chico’s. We ate at Taco Bell for lunch. Strange, huh? New Mexicans eating at Taco Bell? Actually, we like the restaurant!

At 1:40, I had an appointment with my ear doctor. I never have even tried to find a doctor in Santa Fe because having my doctor here assures me of trips back to my hometown. My ear doctor just happens to be one of my favorite former students, Derek Jones, graduate of the Class of 1985 at Woodham High School. He looks just like he did in high school and is the same sweet person that he was thirty years ago. I always feel sorry for those with appointments after mine because he takes so much time with me. I have this crazy, oft-operated-on ear that has to cleaned out at least once a year. Since I hadn’t been to Derek since October 2013, he had lots of cleaning to do. Pretty much painful. At one time during the cleaning I told him that if he dug any further, he’d be digging out brains. I can’t afford to lose any! We have such a good time catching up on his family. Makes it worth the pain! I can’t believe that his oldest child is a freshmen at Florida! Where has the time gone since he was in my class?

On our way back to Jo’s, Frank took a little detour for us to look at a small motorhome, a Chevy Roadtrek. It was beautiful . . . a 2011 with only 10,000 miles on it. We almost bought it, but Frank, sometime during the night, decided that we had other things to use our money on right now. Probably a good decision!

After visiting a while with Jo, we went to Coach-n-Four, a restaurant not far from her house, to meet friends and family for dinner. I had written Facebook messages to Neal Kinard, Nancy Strebeck, Linda (Blossom) Bloom, and Gloria Byrd, longtime friends who were in our Singles Department at First Baptist Church way back when. Also got in touch with my Little Brother, Bob, and asked him and Trish to join us. Everyone except Neal, who has a job at First Baptist and has to be at Wednesday night services, met us. What a great time we had catching up and remembering old times!

I’m a connoisseur of fine seafood, and I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t get any better that what we always have at Coach-n-Four! I had shrimp and oysters, fried of course, and they were scrumptious!! I forgot to order mud bugs (actually little crawfish bites) for an appetizer for everyone, and later I was glad that I forgot. We always treat Bob and Trish, but somehow they talked the waitress in to giving them the check for the four of us. So . . . I’m glad I didn’t add more to the bill. Thanks, Little Brother!

I told you earlier that I had a plan for a good night’s sleep. We stopped at Walgreen’s on the way back to Jo and Fred’s and I bought Aleve PM to help me sleep and also to alleviate the pain in my knee and back, always with me. It worked!!

Jo and Fred went to bed very early because they had to get up at 4:00 so that Fred could take Freddie to the airport. He has a new job (he’s a pilot) and had to fly to Pittsburg for his physical before he begins the job on Monday.


Very good night’s sleep!!




Day 11 -- February 12, 2015







Yesterday was our second and last day in Pensacola. I’ve NEVER had such a short visit, and I hope I NEVER have another visit that short! Just didn’t get to do as much as I like to do or see as many people as I like to see. But time was short this time.

After a little more catching up with Jo and a cup of coffee, we set off for Destin. A couple of years ago, in a weak moment (Frank says that it was all my fault), we succumbed to purchasing a Wyndham membership. Ours is a very small buy, but we enjoy using our points every once in a while, trying not to lose them in September. Our destination in Destin, Beach Front Cottages, would use up some of the points.

We found the cottages easily, but ours wasn’t ready yet, so we went to Pompano Joe’s for lunch. Started my beach photos there, and you’ll see them below. I had Popcorn Shrimp Salad. Very good, but they surely do waste all that rabbit food on me. I eat all the goodies off the top and send the rest back with the waiter.

After lunch while we were waiting for our room to be cleaned, we found the theater that we wanted to go to tonight. We seldom go to movies, but this one would be our third in just over a month. The first two were Unbroken and American Sniper, both so good and ones that everyone should see. The one for tonight is Black or White. It turned out to be one that everyone should also see. Such a great theme! And a happy ending!

As we were looking for the theater, I spied my favorite store, Chico’s, and determined to have at least a short visit there before leaving Destin.

When we entered our cottage, we found a lovely little apartment, just right for us, and spent the afternoon in it, just catching up on emails and taking a peek at chosen junk mail.

Since we had had a rather late lunch, we went to our early movie before eating dinner. We located the RedBrick Pizza Café just outside and theater and decided to go there after the movie. We always arrive a bit early so that we can get a good seat. Hmmm . . . very strange. We were the first ones there, and we weren’t THAT early. A few minutes after we chose the best seats in the house, another couple came in and sat a few rows behind us. Would you believe that we four were the only ones in the theater? Black and White (Kevin Costner) was one of the best movies we’ve seen, right up there with The Blind Side. I’ll probably order the DVD so that we can show it when we have guests if they want a good story, lots of laughs, and some tears.

The pizza was very good!! Tomorrow will be our last day of real vacation. Somehow, we always manage to squeeze in a lot in a little time. Don’t you agree?



Day 12 -- February 13, 2015



One of the first things I said this morning was, “What are we doing today?” Frank’s answer, “I don’t know. I have some writing to do.”

Now, that was a strange answer from my sweetheart, who types with two fingers and hates the process. Oh, well, I had several things that I needed to do in preparation for going back to work next week.

After we ate our breakfast – three Krispy Kremes for Frank and one for me, plus coffee, all in the room – Frank attacked his computer, and I worked on mine. About two hours later, during which time, he shouted, “I knew it! I knew it!”, he came to me and sheepishly requested, “Will you post this on Facebook tomorrow?”

I saw two pages of handwritten text. He hadn’t been typing; he was writing something for me to type. I read the first line or two and told him that he needed to read it to me. Many of you saw it posted on Valentine’s Day, but I want it here so that those who might have missed it can see the beautiful letter that my sweetheart wrote to/for me:

This will come as a surprise to many of you as I am most often the silent partner in this Sandy and Frank relationship. However, its being Valentine’s Day today, there are a few thoughts I’d like to direct to my sweetheart of almost 54 years, and it seems appropriate that I share them with her vast audience of friends that follow her (us) quite regularly.

English was my minor in college, so it’s not surprising on this day that I would remember Elizabeth Barrett Browning and her Sonnet 43, “How Do I Love Thee?”

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

Say , “Ahhh!” with me. But those were Elizabeth’s words, sweet, but not mine. Many of you may have a touch of my sweetheart’s heart from her many writings posted on her Facebook page as well as in her personal relationships with those of you whom she taught or has known through the years, but I HAVE her heart, though never fully deserved, for I’m not the selfless person she is.

So, to my Sandy . . . You broke your ankle in mid-February 1961, and your roommate asked me to carry you up the stairs in Nelson Hall each day so that you could meet your classes. Little did I know how you would then “carry me” through my life by loving me endlessly.

We had our first date on March 10, 1961, became engaged in July, and were married December 17, 1961. Life has dealt us many of its storms, but never have these storms dampened our love for each other, and life has been good. On this day, February 14, 2015, let me ask you, “Will you be my Valentine?”

I love you forever,
Frank

Of course, I’ll be your Valentine, Honey! I’ve been that for more than half a century, and I don’t have any intention of not being your Valentine . . . ever! I do need to tell you, dear readers, that on our first Valentine’s Day after we married, my sweetheart gave me a thesaurus. The letter is much more romantic, isn’t it? Just had a thought. Our first Valentine’s Day together after we married was our first Valentine’s Day ever.

I typed his letter this morning and emailed it to him so that it’d be on his computer. I could post it on Facebook so that it was from him, not me. I’ll post it tomorrow morning as we’re traveling.

We ate lunch at The Crab Trap, not far from our cottage. Frank had popcorn shrimp, and I had a popcorn shrimp sandwich and gumbo. I know you’re not surprised that the main souvenirs that we’re taking home with us are the pounds that we’ve added because of fried seafood and sweet tea!!

As was the morning, the afternoon was laid back. I mentioned Chico’s, and Frank knows how much I like to shop there, whether I buy anything or not; therefore, he rooted around in Books-a-Million while I went to my favorite ladies’ store. Nothing looked good on me today, so I bought only a couple of pairs of earrings. I’ll  be wearing them a lot, I’m sure. They’re just alike, except one is silver and the other, gold. Frank found a book on sale, though, and will begin another trilogy that will take him months to finish. He bought Book 2, and I ordered Book 1. We’ll get number 3 when it comes out in paperback. It’s a trilogy about World War I and World War II, but we can’t think of the title of the set of novels.

Dinner tonight was at the Hog’s Breath Saloon, where their motto is “Hog’s breath is better than no breath at all!” Ain’t that the truth?! We were actually a bit tired of seafood (can that be possible?), so we had ribs. Very good! Not quite so good as the ones that I had on the cruise, but very good. We were a bit impatient to get our check because we wanted to get back to the cottage to watch Hawai’i Five-O and Blue Bloods. Skipped the first one (Frank watched Megan Kelly, and I packed and cleaned the kitchen) and will watch it when we get home, but Blue Bloods, our favorite show, was just as good as it always is. We do love Tom Selleck and his Irish Catholic law enforcement family!

We were in bed early once again so that we could hit the road at least by 7:00. Tomorrow will be the last day of our real vacation. We would have liked to stay longer, but life in the real world is calling. I’m not looking forward to walking in the door at home, though. Many of you know that our sweet Maizy dog is no longer with us, and the old homestead just doesn’t seem right without her. My next composition will be “Memories of Maizy,” and I’ll probably post it on Facebook.

February 16, 2015

I’ve been a bit derelict in getting my writing done. That’s not unusual. Right now, we’re on the last leg of our trip and almost to Hwy 14 . . . just about 15 minutes from home.

Just thought I’d thank those of you who saw on Facebook Frank’s Valentine letter to me and either LIKED it or COMMENTED on it. I read the comments to him as he was driving, and he just smiled and smiled. I even read the names of those who LIKED it, and he smiled then, too. I’ll give you some numbers. As of right now, 172 friends LIKED it, and 43 made comments. I can tell you for sure that he was very happy!







Monday, December 29, 2014

A Promise for 2015



I have just been through the most awful series of questions in order to get to the place where I can post on my own blog! Google wouldn't take my latest password; therefore, I couldn't do anything on my blog. I still don't know that I'll ever be able to get back in here again. But . . . just in case I can, I promise to write on my blog in 2015. My last post was in the summer of 2013. For someone who loves to write and who would like to get serious about her writing, this is terrible! Let's see how the good intentions go!

Tuesday, July 09, 2013

P is for Playing


                  

All of us come into this world playing and continue to do so for the rest of our lives. Babies play with their toes and their daddies’ ears; toddlers play with toys and their grandmas’ whatnots; children play with their friends—hopscotch, dodge ball, red rover (I know these are old fashioned); teenagers play hooky and chicken and steal-the-boyfriend; adults play all sorts of “games” to capture their sweethearts and to advance themselves in the work world.  The two types of play that are surfacing in my mind this morning, though, are two that I haven’t mentioned and are coming to me from my childhood. Both games were important in developing me into the person I am today at the tender age of 73.

In my neighborhood in New Orleans, a WWII housing project, we children didn’t have many toys. I always had dolls, and during the war, I had plastic airplanes that we played with, bombing the Japs (I know that’s politically incorrect, but that’s what we called them), but I don’t remember many other toys. Oh, yes, I heard on the radio once about a cardboard farm set that I could order, probably for a dollar or so, and I did just that. But I forgot to include the dollar. I received it anyway. That was surely “back in the day,” wasn’t it? After school, we skated and rode bikes on the sidewalks in our neighborhood, and on Saturdays we played in new-mown grass and on a jungle gym in the big, shared backyard. We also played all of the previously mentioned games—hopscotch, dodge ball, red rover—but the ones that I remember best are house and school.

I loved it when Donny Lockwood played house with us girls because he could be the daddy. If he didn’t play, I had to be the daddy because I was the tallest. How I hated that! Just because I was tall didn’t mean I had to be a boy. Sometimes we played with dolls for the babies, but sometimes we just let the youngest or smallest child be the baby. She would coo and gurgle just like a real baby, and we loved that. We prepared meals the way our mothers did, using leaves and flowers and dirt for the ingredients. The “garbage” flowers and leaves were the best because they were the biggest. I have no idea as to what these flowers and leaves really were; they were just the ones planted around our garbage area, a fence-in square where the garbage cans were located. The plants did their best to hide what was really there. We mimicked our parents when we talked to each other, with the daddy pitching his or her voice very low and authoritatively. Whoever was the mother had a high voice and always told the daddy what had gone on around the house while he was off at work. In the same manner, the daddy would report on what he had done at the office. He probably had the same job that his daddy had. Occasionally, while we were playing house, we’d stop for a while to use our spoons or little shovels to try to dig to China because we were convinced that if we dug down deep enough, we’d see Chinamen down in the hole. Inevitably during our playtime, we’d use the expression “Let’s plike,” being interpreted “Let’s play like.” We little Southerners didn’t do too well with some words. We loved playing house and  could stay at it for hours. In the evenings in the summer, we’d play slinging statues and catch lightning bugs until our parents called us in for bath and bedtime.

We played house both inside and outside our homes, but the next game was played inside because we’d never heard of a school being outside. That’s right . . . we played school. And guess who was almost always the teacher! You got it . . . Sandy. This was probably the only game in which I was really pushy. I was the tallest, so I could be the teacher. This was one time that I didn’t resent being picked for something because of my height. Children back then didn’t have many books of their own. I really don’t know why. Maybe parents expected their kids to get books from the library. I did that, but I also had some books of my own. I wish I still had those books because inside each one of them I’d see a subject written: arithmetic (we never called it math or mathematics), reading, trigonometry (I read that word in a book one time and thought it sounded interesting . . . had a real ring to it), composition, history, and probably some others. I was a hard taskmaster of a teacher and made the students stay focused on what we were doing. My little wooden easel chalkboard with the alphabet at the top made my schoolroom look real . . . at least to me.  

These two games have stayed in my mind through all of these years because both helped me to think about the future at a very young age. I knew that certain things were done in a family and certain things weren’t from playing house. The daddy was the leader of the household; the mother prepared dinner and took care of the children. Sounds old fashioned, doesn’t it? It is, but for me, it still applies today. Early on I found myself at the front of the classroom, giving instructions to children, teaching them what I knew best. I must admit that even back then, we spent more time on spelling and reading and writing than we did on arithmetic. Just a little foreshadowing, I guess.

We had a great time in our project. Games were important in our lives, and we played them to the hilt!

Sunday, July 07, 2013

O is for My Occupations




Well, I haven’t had many of those, so I’ll have to mention my jobs, which weren’t actually occupations. I’ll get to the occupations shortly.

My first job was as a clerk in my dad’s Auto Lec store the summer between my junior and senior years in high school. I worked every day from 8:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m., except on Wednesday, when we closed at 1:00. And of course, the store was closed on Sunday. I made $25.00 each week and was ecstatic to make that much because it meant that I could tithe $2.50 and save the rest to purchase a beautiful little baby-blue Smith-Corona manual portable typewriter. That little machine took me all the way through my senior year in high school and both my bachelor’s and master’s degrees, plus several years of teaching. What a sweet little machine.

Even though that was my initial reason for working that summer, another reason soon became important. You see, a very cute boy worked in the meat market at Jitney Jungle, the grocery store where we shopped. Every day, during his lunch break, he walked past our store, and eventually, after we waved to each other each day (I was guarding the TVs at the front of the store), he walked in one day, and I fell in love. Not really in love, more like “in like.”  In any event, I was smitten. And he liked me, too. He was a student at Berry College in Georgia and was spending the summer with his sister and her family. After that initial meeting, he came in every day to chat, and one day he asked me for a date. Of course, I went, but I don’t remember liking him quite so much after that evening. He was a bit too forward for a shy high school girl. I don’t think I heard anything from him after he went back to college, but I surely did like him through the plate glass window of my dad’s store.

I learned a lot that summer—how to wait on customers, how to use the cash register, how to write up lay-aways, and most of all how to keep people from stealing merchandise, especially televisions. At least that’s what Daddy said. He didn’t lose even one TV that summer. How could he? My eyes were glued to them most of the day, except when I was waiting on customers.

My second job was grading papers for Mrs. Sue Price Lipsey, my favorite English teacher at Mississippi College. I don’t recall that she gave me many instructions before grading; however, I surely did get a lot of experience that would come in handy in the thirty-two years that I’d be grading papers after I went out into the real world of teaching English. Mrs. Lipsey and Miss Virginia Schimmel, my senior English teacher at Pensacola High School, were my inspirations for become an English teacher. They were my role models from day one in the classroom.

The third job that I had before getting a job in my profession was that of Veterans’ Clerk in the Registrar’s office at MC. I loved working for Mr. Troy Mohon, longtime registrar at the college. Even though he had probably the worst breath that I had ever smelled, I loved him. I also liked Virginia Busby (who taught me to make biscuits) and Betty Jo Ott ( a strange-shaped girl with a beautiful smile); however, I was scared to death of Miss Addie Mae Stephens, the person in charge of sending out transcripts from the Registrar’s Office. She slept through most of the days, and the other girls in the office and I would watch her as she almost hit her head on the desk as she dozed. She’d always wake up just before the landing, and we’d scurry back to our desks before she could see us. The other person in the office was Esta Spell, a witch of a lady, who made it her personal mission in life to frighten away any new girl who started working in her domain. She almost scared me off, but one Saturday when she wasn’t working, Virginia and Betty Jo told me of her witchy desire. From that day on, I stopped  crying every evening when I got home, much to Frank’s relief, and made it MY mission to stay in the office, maybe even to outlast her. After she realized that I wasn’t going anywhere, she became my friend. Very strange lady!

I’ve had only two real occupations, professions if you will—English teacher and sales rep/consultant. I’m probably one of the few people who can say that I had wonderful bosses, with the exception of Gary Dameron with McDougal Littell Publishing Company, but even he was good at the beginning. His problem was that he lost his mind somewhere along the way, and like Esta Spell, tried to run all of us sales reps off. I don’t think he succeeded with any of us. We were much too hard headed and in need of a job to be frightened of him to the extent that we’d leave our jobs. He was fired, thank goodness, after we Florida sales reps tattled on him. The day that Linda Lee left voice messages for us, telling us that she’d be our manager until she could find one, I’m sure everyone in Florida heard the collective “Hooray,” when we listened to our voice mail that day.

Teaching was my real calling, for I do believe that God has specific jobs in mind for specific people, and He wanted me to spend most of my working days in the classroom with seventeen and eighteen year olds, those teenagers whom hardly anyone truly wanted to teach, but whom I loved until after Spring Break.

All of my 32 years of teaching were done at Pascagoula High School, Live Oak School, Jackson County Junior College, Pensacola Junior College, and Woodham High School, where the vast majority of my years were spent—28 of them. I began my teaching career at Pascagoula High School in Pascagoula, Mississippi. The first year that I taught, I was assigned two tenth-grade basic classes and three tenth-grade average classes. I could lead you to my room right now, but I can’t remember the room number. When I reported to school a few weeks before planning days began, I went to the main office, and as I was standing there looking at who knows what, the principal, Aubrey Johnson, walked up to the counter where I was standing and slapped his paddle down right next to me, causing me to almost jump out of my skin, and said, “Miz Young, you just send ‘em to me if they give you any trouble.” I don’t remember ever sending a student to him because I surely didn’t want it on my conscience if the student got a beating. What if he didn’t really need to go to see Mr. Johnson? I handled my problems myself. I must have done all right that first year because the next year I was “promoted” to seniors. Maybe no one else wanted them. I loved them!
After two years at Pascagoula High School, I decided to apply for a job as reading teacher in the Jackson County School System, still in Pascagoula. I got the job after answering a few questions from Mr. Mallette, the superintendent. He explained to me that I’d be working with Kreole kids, those students whom the public school in Vancleave, Mississippi, didn’t want even less than they wanted Blacks. Kreoles, he explained to me were sort of “red and yellow, black and white,) as the old Sunday school song goes. I found that truly they were a mixture, but also that, as the song continues, “they are precious in His sight.” My year as a reading teacher was truly delightful. Granted, I had a long drive each morning and afternoon—at least 30 minutes each way, but I didn’t mind. The children in the thirteen-grade school (Kindergarten through 12th grade) were sweet, eager to learn, dirty, and very, very poor. Their social life revolved around their Pentecostal church right in their neighborhood. I’m not too sure that I taught them much that year although almost every child’s reading scores went up by the end of the year; however, I managed to get in some lessons in manners and a grand performance at Christmastime. I’d like to think that at least the manners stuck with them.

One year in the country was about all I was up to, so I applied to Jackson County Junior College in Gautier, Mississippi, for a teaching job in the English department. I’m sure I went for an interview, but I don’t remember any details about the meeting. Frank and I were eager to have another child, but we had been unsuccessful during the past year. Wouldn’t you know it, though? Almost as soon as I got the job at JCJC, I found that I was pregnant (or as young couples today say, WE were pregnant). My wonderful college teaching career lasted one semester, one summer, and then another semester, during which time, I gave birth to a sweet baby boy. While at the junior college, I taught mostly freshman English classes and loved every minute. In the fall of 1968, Frank announced that he thought we should move to Pensacola so that he could learn the business of Auto Lec, my folks’ business in Brownsville, because one day it would be ours. So, amidst many tears on my part (I had left Pensacola after high school, never really wanting to live there again), we began making plans to move, the most important part of this big change being my finding a job.

So . . . one weekend that fall, we went to Pensacola so that I could find a job the next week. After visiting with Bill McArthur for a few minutes and trying to sound very much sure of myself, the man in charge of hiring new teachers told me that it would probably be about three years before I could get a job in my hometown. Ha! I needed a job that very day, not three years hence. I thanked him for his time and headed to Pensacola High School, my alma mater. I walked hesitantly up the stairs up the stairs at the school and asked for the principal. Mr. Mabry, the man who had been the assistant principal when I graduated, welcomed me, and we began to chitchat about old times at PHS. Gradually, we wound our way around to why I had dropped in that afternoon. “I need a job,” I told Mr. Mabry. Then I explained what Bill had said about the scarcity of openings. The principal was sad to tell me that there was an opportunity at Woodham High School, a school that I’d never heard of since it was the “new kid on the block.” And why was he sad? Because he’d have loved to hire me but there were no positions at PHS. He made me promise, before he sent me on my way to Woodham, that I’d check with him before accepting the job because maybe someone would walk into his office that afternoon to announce that he or she would be leaving. He had my word, and I headed to 150 E. Burgess Road to see if I could snag a job that hadn’t even been advertised yet because the teacher wouldn’t be going on maternity leave until the end of January. “Oh, by the way,” Mr. Mabry said as I left his office, “Miss Virginia Schimmel teaches there. You may remember her.” Remember her? She was the reason that I was an English teacher! Her personality in the classroom and her method of teaching were what made me think that I could be a success if I just kept her foremost in my mind as I prepared to teach young people.

I could hardly wait to get to the school so that I could connect with her. After I told Mrs. Love, the school secretary, that I’d like to talk to Mr. Holston, the principal and former band teacher at PHS when I was a student there, about a teaching position, I asked to see Miss Schimmel. She called her to the office, and when Miss Schimmel walked in, I could tell that she couldn’t quite place me. She recognized me as a former student, but I had to tell her my name, being careful to say that I no longer went by “Sandra” but by “Sandy,” just in case I got the job. I surely didn’t want my fellow teachers calling me by my despised name. More chitchat here with my teacher, more catching up with what I had been doing in the six years since I had been in her class . . . then I was told that I’d see Mr. Holston in just a few minutes. Miss Schimmel went back to her work, and I entered the principal’s office. He grilled me on my teaching experience and my desire to teach at Woodham. Near the end of our meeting, he asked what kind of teacher I was. “Why, a good one!” I answered immediately. He was probably looking for an answer that involved creativity and liberalism and something very literary, but I wasn’t into those things. I was a good teacher, and I knew it. He said the job was mine if I wanted it. Of course, I wanted it, but I had promised Mr. Mabry not to sign on the dotted line until I checked with him. I told Mr. Holston as much, and he agreed to hold the job until Monday. Fairly early on Monday morning, I called to accept, having known in my heart that that’s exactly what I would do since it’d be very unusual for someone to pop into Mr. Mabry’s office on Friday afternoon to resign.

And so began the longest teaching stint of my career. If it hadn’t been for Miss Virginia Schimmel, I probably wouldn’t have had even one day at Woodham. I learned after I reported for duty at the first of February 1969, as she left the office where we were talking, she went immediately around the corner to Mr. Holston’s office and said, “Hire the young lady who is about to walk through that door!” No questions asked. When Miss Schimmel spoke, it was like E.F. Hutton. Everyone listened, and most people did just what she asked of them. Bill Holston did that Friday afternoon.

My work at Woodham got off to a rocky start. You see, when I was hired, I took the place of the favorite teacher for sophomores. Peggy Doherty was everything that a sixteen-year-old would want in a teacher. She was smart, funny, entertaining (she sometimes sang in night clubs, so she also sang in her classroom), and demanding. I was smart and demanding but certainly not funny and entertaining. The kids, for the most part, resented me. They thought somehow that I had made her pregnant and that I had forced her to quit . . . to leave them. Almost every day in every class, someone would say, “That’s not the way Mrs. Doherty did it!” Finally, one day, I threw back to some unsuspecting student, “I wonder if any of you have noticed that I am NOT Mrs. Doherty. I don’t ever want to hear that again!” And that was the beginning of the classes’ belonging to Mrs. Young and not to just some substitute for Mrs. Doherty. Before this change, I had spent the majority of every Sunday afternoon crying because I didn’t want to go to school on Monday. Every once in a while, I’d break down during my free period at school. I’d cry on Miss Schimmel’s shoulder about how things were going in my four advanced sophomore classes, a dream schedule if thee ever was one. And then one day everything changed. Miss Schimmel said to me, “Sandy, if these advanced classes are too much for you, I can change your schedule and give you average and basic classes. There are plenty of teachers who would love to have your schedule!” Oops! That’s not what I wanted at all. My tears miraculously dried up, and my attitude changed. That’s about the time that I reminded my students that I wasn’t Mrs. Doherty. From that time onward, I was a different person as far as my teaching was concerned.

I could write a book about my 28 years at Woodham, and someday I might. For right now, though, I’ll just say that during my time there, I taught the following: average and advanced sophomores, one class of average juniors (it just about did me in!), Grammar and Composition, Advanced Grammar and Composition, Fiction, the Bible as Literature, College Prep English, Advanced Placement English, Dual Enrollment English, and Basic, Average, and Advanced Senior English. I also served as sponsor of the Junior Honor Society, Senior Class Sponsor, Project Graduation Sponsor, and co-creator and sponsor of Senior Day, the latter two activities being ones that I could write pages and pages about. Maybe some day, I’ll write lots more about my years at Woodham. I loved my job, but when I went on to my next vocation, I was happy to change. After Jay died, I lost a little enthusiasm for teaching. I must say, though, that I never have completely left the classroom. Right now, I have about 150 former students as Facebook friends, and I’m still looking over their shoulders and giving them advice when they ask for it . . . and sometimes when they don’t!

Jay died on July 2, 1992, and about two years after that, I decided that I’d seek, not necessarily greener pastures, but other pastures. For years I had gone to the Florida Council of Teachers of English Fall Conferences, and had gotten to know lots of the sales reps for publishers of textbooks. Frank and I thought that being a sales rep would be perfect for me when I retired from teaching. So . . . I began to solicit jobs. After talking seriously to people from both Holt and McDougal Littell, I finally landed a job with the latter and began a fairly long career with that company. I was a field sales rep for McDougal Littell in Florida for seven years (there’s fodder for another book during that time), then retired to move to New Mexico, where I’d stay in retirement for exactly 79 days before going right back to work for the same company. I was a per diem consultant for just about a year before taking the sales rep job in New Mexico for a year. After that year, I went back to per diem work, and now at the age of 73 am still working for the same company although because of buy-outs and/or mergers, it’s now Houghton Mifflin Harcourt/Holt McDougal. At this point in my sales and consulting career, I have the perfect job. I do most of my work (back to working per diem) online though occasionally I get a face-to-face job and even get to go back to my glorious Southland to work. I love my job, and I doubt that I will ever again announce retirement. I’ll just quit taking jobs, and everyone will wonder what ever happened to old Sandy. That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it!